Ryder Cup Fans, Bad Sportsmanship, and the Courtroom Connection

Photo: David Cannon, Golf Digest

This year’s Ryder Cup was full of drama—great golf, close matchups, and yes, some really ugly fan behavior. Watching it unfold, I couldn’t help but feel disappointed. When Team USA started falling behind, a lot of American fans didn’t respond with grace or encouragement. Instead, some heckled the European players, mocked their celebrations, and acted like poor sports. You could feel the frustration—but the way it came out said a lot more about the fans than the players.

It reminded me of something I’ve seen too often in courtrooms over the years: how people behave when they’re losing reveals their true character.

Losing Gracefully Matters

In sports, losing is tough. But in golf—a game built on etiquette and respect—it stands out when someone crosses the line. When fans turn their energy from supporting their team to ridiculing the opponent, it reflects insecurity, not strength. They’re not trying to lift up their side—they’re trying to tear the other down. And it rarely works. Often, the opposition stays calm, focused, and ends up winning.

The Legal World Isn’t So Different

In my 30+ years of practice, I’ve seen lawyers who, when the tide turns against them, shift from solid argument to personal attacks—on the other lawyer or even the other party. Sometimes it’s snide remarks, sometimes outright rudeness. Opposing counsel often try to get under my skin with sarcasm or aggression when they sense they’re losing a motion or hearing.

Just like on the golf course, that behavior usually backfires. Judges and juries notice. When a lawyer becomes combative or disrespectful, it reflects poorly—not just on them, but on their client’s case. It’s like yelling during someone’s backswing—it may feel satisfying in the moment, but it doesn’t help you win.

Professionalism Wins

Lawyers, like golfers, are supposed to uphold a certain level of professionalism. You advocate hard. You argue passionately. But at the end of the day, you shake hands. Most lawyers still do. Lately, however, you see more who treat every disagreement as a personal insult, rather than a natural part of the process.

My approach has always been the opposite. Even when I’m arguing from a difficult position, I stay focused, respectful, and client-centered. That’s how you build trust—with clients, judges, and juries—and ultimately, how you win.

Because in law, as in golf, your true character shows when things aren’t going your way.